Monday, September 7, 2009
Still working on Potty Training
We did everything that we were supposed to for the three days and it was going great. Leo was waking up dry from naps and in the morning and was dry in the day. I thought I had this thing Down. Let me tell you, I was wrong. He doesn't want to do it anymore. I am stuck. I take him to the bathroom every 30 min and things go ok. But if you don't remind him to go, he just pees where he is. And he is nolonger dry in bed. He will just smile at you and then pee. Yet if you put him on the toilet, he will go. I don't know what I am doing wrong. We tried the whole reward thing. He grew tired of stickers. I don't want to give him a toy everytime he goes pee. I just don't know what to do. Help...
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How old is he? I'll be honest, we tried everything with Kage, now 4 in August, and nothing, NOTHING worked.
ReplyDeleteJust as you mentioned, the more we tried, the more he regressed than he had already been naturally.
We tried a sticker chart, dangling small toys as rewards, shame, no diaper, and on and on, Nothing worked.
I do believe for Kage it was the last single thing he had complete control over. He would poop in his diaper when he was mad at me; what did he care? It was so frustrating.
Then I just stopped. Reminding myself that he would not be in a diaper forever, I just constantly asked if he wanted to use the toilet.
One morning, not long after the baby was born, when I asked him, he said yes. I still remember the moment clearly. My husband and I both stared at each other in amazement, not believing what we had just heard, before running to the bathroom to help Kage.
That was it. Honestly. That week we had one incident where we forgot to ask him and he peed all over, but we didn't shame him or blame him. We just cleaned up and moved on.
I swear I never believed women who said, "they'll do it when they are ready." But now I am convinced of it. Think of the bigger picture: this won't last long.
Kage was 3.5 when he finally decided.
Good luck!!!!
So I was reading what you said thinking that Leo never tells me when he has to go unless we are in the car. Then today, he told us twice on his own that he had to go. So, maybe you are right. I hope he keeps this up.
ReplyDeleteLeo is 2 1/2. He started showing signs of readiness about 2 months ago. He would jump up and tell us he had to go. We would run to the bathroom and he would pee. It was great. Then we would put him in big boy pants and sometimes he would tell us and sometimes he wouldn't and then there would be a mess on the floor. I didn't know what I was going to do. Then I read this post ( http://www.startpottytraining.com/q0w9e8r7.html ) on the internet and we went with it.
He will tell me when we are in the car. The first time I pulled the car over and took my potty seat out of the trunk so he could pee he looked at me like a nut and then peed in the potty seat. I don't care how he looks at me, as long as he pees in it and not in the car seat. We leave chucks under him in the car seat. Those are those blue plastic sheets they put under you in the hospital when you have the baby. Those things are invaluable. We have used them since Leo was born. We take them everywhere and use them for all sorts of things. Most people think of them as puppy pee pee pads. But the size we use is like 36" by 27" and it fits in the changing table and stuff. When we go on long car trips to CA (before potty training) we would only put the kids in a diaper and then put these under the kids in case they had an accident that was major. This saved the car seats many a time.
Thank you for your help.
Smile,
Jeannie
I think you have to pretend you don't care. You just don't give a darn. You could care less if he pees in his pants. You don't even mind cleaning poopy undies. It's up to him if he wants to wear wet pants. Whatever. When he thinks it's his idea, he'll go for it. Like Katie said, Kage just decided. Leo will, too.
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